Sunday, February 28, 2010

Babyshower pictures!



I had the most wonderful time yesterday at my baby shower. I truly am so blessed to have such an amazing group of women in my life. The hostesses went WAY above and beyond to make the day so wonderful. And Jake was certainly showered with tons of thoughtful gifts. I cant really express how thankful I am to have each and every one of the guests in my life. But if you are reading this...THANK YOU!!!

The hostesses with the mostesses. They did an amazing job!


Beautiful home-made cake. She did an awesome job!! Look at the sweet clothes around the edge!
Decor. I got to take home the cute little bead toy. Jake will LOVE that when he's older!

Guest book. Liquor for non-pregnant women only!

On the left is Nana, me, and Yaya on the right.
Great-grandma and aunt E.

Some of my gorgeous friends!








I really wasnt bored. The camera-women (my MIL) has this knack for catching me making very strange faces. You will see this strange knack throughout subsequent photos....
My sister and I with the Tummy Tub. Awesome bathtub that will be re-used as a bucket in a future life (0:
Activity mat and strange face numero uno.....

Cute shirt and cover from my sister!

Strange face numero dos....I had to name each item for the ladies playing bingo. I was drawing a blank here. Safety covers is what I called them.

Explaining the supposed benefits of the baby "crack" machine as I have heard it called. Sound machine = valium for babies apparently.

Tummy tub, not a bucket. Right.
My friend made this gorgeous knit sleep sack and hat. She also made some other gorgeous pieces of clothing that I will show you later!

Baby Bull is on the way!

Layette set, I was checking to see if there were socks. They needed socks for the bingo game.

Diaper pod and changing pad in a cute pattern!

Nana made Jake a blanket.
Jake got a beautiful crocheted blanket and matching hat from a good family friend.

This is the other outfit my amazing friend knit up for Jake. How gorgeous is this? Heirloom quality for sure. It will be going into his memory box when he outgrows it.

Matching crocheted cap.

Bouncer, these are great!

My very own peanut gallery!

So many wonderful women in my life!

Aunt E, Great Grandma, and big swollen me. Someone reassure me I will have normal looking feet and legs again one day. Please!


Saturday, February 27, 2010

Racism and students....

I don't talk too much about my students or my job as a teacher. I sometimes feel like it would be unethical to write too much about them on a public forum, and it could possibly be dangerous for my career. So I try to shy away from this. But I have to post about this.

I am a college graduate, and I took lots of psychology and sociology classes. I am well aware that racism is still very much a part of our lives, whether we choose to see it or not. But I tend to forget this. Its an ugly construct and I like to believe that its not as common as it is. I think we all have some subconcious and long-held prejudices that we tend to forget about. I know what mine are, and I try to work against them when they surface. But overt racism is something that I feel like I dont see often (thank goodness). So I guess I forgot that it still happens everyday within our society.

One thing that scares me about being a parent is how much children are a product of their environment. After working with kids for as long as I have, it is clear to me that children are sponges. And they will pick up every.single.thing that their parents model for them. They absorb that and it becomes part of who they are. This can be an unsettling realization at times.

So here is my story, let me preface by saying that I have been working at a title one school which boasts a high number of minority students. Primarily Hispanic, but also African American. I had one class come to me a few weeks ago who was having an "off" day. This class can either be very, very good or very, very challenging. That was a challenging day. I ended up sending one student (an African-American student) to the office for being disrespectful and rude. The teacher asked the rest of the class to write apology letters to me for their behavior. As I was reading through the letters I get to one that stood out immediately. Here is my rendition:

Dear Mrs Sunshine,
I am sorry that my class was being "talky-talky" today. You know I wasn't talking very much, I know how to control my voice. I am so sorry that you had to send student X to the office today too, he was being really rude. But you know, that's just how black people are........

HOLD UP, what? It was one of those moments where one minute I am chuckling at the letter and the next minute I felt my jaw drop, literally. This is a good student. This is a polite student, who I have never had any trouble with. This is the last thing I would expect from this student. And yet here I am reading something so blatantly racist that it disturbs me. I took the letter to the teacher and it was decided we would let the school counselor speak with him.

Fast forward a couple of weeks....

In honor of presidents day I am having my older grades write letters to the president. I will be choosing five letters from each grade, and putting them together in a book to send to Washington. So I had this same class again yesterday. Yesterday was a good day. They all worked on their letters and turned them in to me. So I am reading through them, because I have been giving the ones that need work to the classroom teachers for the students to work on during free time. So I get to the previously discussed students letter and oh boy...

Dear Mr President,
I think you are doing a great job, I hope you don't get killed......

Another one of those pesky jaw-drops ensues. Whoa. What has this child been hearing at home? What would make a child write this, or even think it? This child is between 8 and 9 years old!

Unfortunately I think it goes to show you that racism is not an antiquated concept. This is something that certain people are teaching their children (through their actions, and words) to believe. And it truly disturbs me. Just when I think we have come so far, I realize that we have only made baby steps. There is still so much change needed in our country, society, and world, before we can hope to see an end to something as pointless as racism.




34 weeks....37 days and counting!!



34 weeks pregnant


How far along? 34 weeks and 5 days today.
Total weight gain/loss: Around 33. I had a huge weight gain at my last appointment, but I sincerely believe this is partially water retention. My feet, ankles, and calves are so swollen by the end of the day that they are tender. That has to be part of it, right? RIGHT?!
Maternity clothes? I just had to buy a new shirt today. Because for some reason 2 out of the 5 shirts I wear regularly have tiny holes in the belly. With one of the shirts its because my cat clawed me, and put the holes there. With another my ginormous belly grazed the side of the shopping cart and caught my shirt and pulled a hole. I really didnt want to buy anymore clothes, but what can you do?
Sleep: Hmm this week was a mixed bag. Some days this week were horrendous, and I barely slept. A couple of other days this week were actually good. I woke up feeling refreshed and couldnt remember waking up more than 2x throughout the night. Yes, that's right I was excited because I only woke up 2x. How wonderful, right?
Best moment this past week: Looking forward to my shower!!
Movement: He is definitely getting squished in there. He really doesnt kick as much as he used to, much more rolling and he LOVES to stick his butt out. It is amazing to me how he already has a "schedule." He is quiet in the morning until around mid-morning and wakes up for a little while. Then he is quiet again until after lunch when he wakes up to "eat." Then quiet again until early evening when he really starts to get rowdy. He is busy throughout the evening (on and off of course) and when I wake up at night I regularly feel him kicking around and moving during the night. I definitely have a night owl!
Food cravings: My very favorite thing to eat right now is roasted Tofurkey, w/ cheese, lettuce, and alfalfa sprouts on multi-grain bread. Sooo good!
Gender: Boy, John "Jake" Aaron.
Labor Signs: Well I have started having contractions sporadically this week. At least I think they are contractions, maybe they are Braxton Hicks contractions. I have been having BH contractions since 2nd trimester and they were never painful. The contractions I have been getting since Wednesday are similar (very) to period cramping. And they are very low in my pelvis (my BH's have been my entire uterus). I have been having at least a couple per day since Wednesday. This probably means absolutely nothing except that I get to experience the wonder of contractions for 5 more weeks. Yippee.
Belly Button in or out? Innie, maybe it will stay that way?
What I miss: There are so many things that I miss. This week its sleeping. I suspect I will miss sleeping for a very long time.
What I am looking forward to: Seeing my friends and family today at my shower. Such awesome women I have in my life!
Weekly Wisdom: Write things down. Because otherwise you will forget them due to "pregnant brain."
Milestones: 5 weeks left to go....37 days!!

Baby Week 34:

Baby's Length: 19.5-20 in.

Baby's Weight: 5 lbs.

Baby's Size: Medium pumpkin (Um holy crap that is a PUMPKIN!)










Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Longing....




















8 weeks pregnant VS 34 weeks pregnant



This is insane right? Seriously? I have never been what you might call svelte. I tend to carry my extra weight in my stomach (ironic isnt it). So I had a bit of a belly before I got pregnant. But looking at my eight week picture makes me absolutely long for that body back. The body that could put on its own shoes and socks. The body that could lay on its back. The body whose feet didnt swell up like a balloon by mid-morning. I miss you body, please come back soon! You weren't perfect, but oh how I miss you now!



Sunday, February 21, 2010

Cloth diapering-our plan....

The home of our diaper stash



What's that you heard? That we were planning to cloth diaper? Yup you got it! No we are not insane, nor are we masochists in disguise. There is a whole world out there, one that you may not be aware of. The world of cloth diapering is a busy and thriving one I tell you. I often find myself forgetting that cloth diapers are not the norm, since I spend a lot of time on message boards where it most certainly IS the norm.

I got interested in cloth diapering before we even got pregnant with Jake. Because I try to consider my impacts upon the environment in everything I do, this seemed to be a natural choice. There is some controversy over whether or not cloth diapers are actually better for the environment, but with a little common sense and thought it becomes obvious that it IS the better choice. Especially if you are using energy star appliances to wash them, and line or air drying them.

Other benefits to cloth diaper are cost, and less exposure to carcinogens and yucky chemicals. The cost savings are pretty good depending on what you use to build your cloth diaper "stash." On average most people spend around 1600.00 on disposable diapers until their child is potty trained at around 30 months. This works out to be around 7,000 disposable diapers per child!!! That is 7,000 non-biodegradeable diapers full of human waste that will end up in a landfill and leech into our groundwater PER CHILD!! If you are looking to save a lot of money you can easily cloth diaper a child through potty training (which is usually earlier with cloth diapered children) for as little as 250.00. That is a cost savings of 1450.00 per child. Of course many people spend more than this (certainly not ME of course ::evil wink::). But lets just consider that a person who shall remain unnamed spends around 800.00 for a stash that should last through potty learning (2+ years) that is still a significant cost savings considering we didnt add in the cost of disposable wipes (which could be another 200.00 total). So I, umm I mean the unnamed person, would end up saving 850.00 when you add in the cost of disposable wipes.
This doesnt take into account that most people use their diapers to diaper more than one child. Thus saving thousands of dollars in the long run.
And you are also keeping you child from sitting in diapers full of carcinogenic chemicals. Purely a personal belief, but I am definitely more comfortable keeping his sensitive parts away from those types of things.

So what are we planning on using you ask? I know you are on the edge of your seat here, right? Well how about I tell you? I have two "stashes" a newborn sized stash (for the teeny, tiny baby) and a "one-size" stash (that should fit through potty learning).
We have a little bit of everything in our stash, and I will try to explain what our plan for each is.

A staple of our stash is Green Mountain Diaper prefolds. On the left you can see the various sizes w/ their colored edges. The orange-edges are for newborns (5-10 pounds) and the yellow edges are for infants (10-15 pounds). The other non-colored prefolds are random brands and sizes that I plan to try out. I also have a full stash of red-edge organic cotton prefolds which are good for 15-30 pounds. This should take me almost to potty training. And I probably spent around 200.00 total. If I needed to I could absolutely use only these exclusively (with covers which I will talk about next). As you can see these are the cloth diapers our mothers used (well, not mine per say). But they are versatile, easy to wash, and they work very well. All things you want in a cloth diaper!




If you choose to use prefolds or fitteds (more on these later) you will need a cover. You have two choices in covers, and neither of them are the plastic pants of old. You can choose to use PUL which is a water proof, breathable fabric which can be found in cute colors and patterns. Or you can also choose to use wool covers which are a natural fiber and are naturally antibacterial. I have chosen to use both. In the picture to the right I have a variety of covers. I have sized covers (small, and newborn sized specifically), one-size covers (that will fit a larger range of sizes), and sized wool covers (made from recycled wool sweaters). Either cover is a wonderful choice, and depends purely upon personal preference. I wanted to try both and will narrow down our stash based on what works best for us.
You can also see in the picture to the right that I have a smallish stash of fitteds. What is a fitted you ask?

Fitteds are cloth diapers that are very similar to disposables in fit. They snap or velcro at the waist, and all you have to do is slap em' on (well, don't literally slap). There is no inserting, folding, or pinning involved. BUT fitted's are not waterproof so they must have a cover put over them. Remember those covers, either PUL or wool? You have to put one of those over top of the cute fitted in order to make it water-proof. Which is really too bad since they are so darn cute, and come in such a variety of adorable prints and patterns. I have around 10 one-size fitted diapers. This means they should fit up to 30 pounds (or close to potty training age). They are a variety of brands but the ones I have are Little Fancy Pants, BuBuBeBe, Goodmama, and Bagshot Row Bamboo.
These are probably not a good fit for a small newborn, but they are usually a great solution for older and larger babies.

Another option in cloth diapering is the All-In-One. This is the most like a disposable. You simply put it on. Thats it. This diaper does not require a waterproof cover, because the outer lining of the diaper is waterproof. One of the most popular brands of diapers is BumGenius. They make a wonderful All-In-One that is made with a very absorbent organic cotton. This diaper is also a one-size diaper that will fit from around 10 pounds to around 35 pounds. So it grows with your baby. These are perfect for dads, or babysitters who may not be comfortable using something like a prefold. I have 20 BumGenius Organic AIO OS diapers to use when Jake gets older. I am very happy to have gotten these, they hold their value really well and can be resold for at least 1/2 of what I bought them for.





In order to extend the absorbency of the diapers you can use doublers. These are just pieces of fabric that add to the absorbency. You can get them in microfiber (which keeps baby feeling dry), hemp (which is super-absorbent), wool (which is very absorbent and antibacterial) and cotton (which is a natural fiber). In order to keep baby feeling dry (without all the chemicals) you can use fleece liners. They just lay on top of the diaper, and leave baby feeling nice and dry. On the left is my basket of doublers (white), fleece liners (blue), and wool doublers (blue stripes). These are more of an "extra" and are not 100% necessary if you are on a budget.








Some of the other extra's in the cloth diapering world are cloth wipes. These are just what they sound like, wipes made of cloth. They are much thicker and more absorbent than sposie (disposable) wipes. And you can just throw them in the wetbag and wash with the diapers when you are done with them. I have some wonderful wipes from Eli's Wipes on diaperswappers.com, and I have some wipes that I made myself from flannel. I also have in the basket pictured to the right a bottle of Northern Essence foaming wipes solution (to moisten wipes with), a bottle of Method Diaper Cream (this is cloth diaper safe while the more mainstream brands like Desitin are not), and Snappies and pins. Snappies are used to hold cloth diapers together at the waist, they are an alternative to pins. They are much easier than pins, and are much like the small hooks on ace bandages. The wipes, and wipes solution are not a necessity some people choose to use sposie wipes. I feel like cloth will be easier since I am washing diapers anyway.
Here is a picture of Jake's semi-organized closet. I am storing some extra diapering supplies in here.


I still have a long way to go to get completely organized, but for now its good enough. Poor guy has to share his closet with my crafting supplies and other extra's. In the sweater hanger on the right I am storing some other cloth diapering supplies.

In the top I have a TON of extra inserts and doubler's. I have way too many of these, but that's okay. Right? In the next space are some pocket diapers. The pocket diapers I have are all one-size, but they probably wont fit a newborn well so I am keeping them in the closet until he gets big enough. Pocket diapers dont require a cover, and are very similar to All-In-One's but they have an insert that must be stuffed into each diaper. In the middle space I am keeping a blanket I made for Jake since I cannot keep it anywhere that is accessible to the cats. They apparently really like the blanket.








In this square are my wetbags. Storing dirty diapers is a definite consideration when cloth diapering. I have chosen to use hanging wetbags, which can be thrown into the wash with the diapers. I have Planetwise wetbags, that will hang from a hook next to the changing table. I also have 3 medium size wetbags to keep in the diaper bag for outings. These are waterproof and from what I have read are very good at containing any "stink."
In the very last space I have extra yellow-edge Green Mountain Diaper prefolds. I think I may have overbought these, but they had a very good sale and I couldnt help myself. Pregnancy has NOT been good for my shopping habits.






And finally here is my "next size up" bin. I keep it in the closet and it has all of the prefolds and other diapers that wont fit for awhile. It also has my Diaper Sprayer
which I wont need to hook up for awhile. Diaper sprayer's are the answer to the "dunk and swish." No more dunking cloth diapers in the toilet, just spray them off with the diaper sprayer.

So as you can see I am set for a very long time. Now the only problem is telling my shopping obsession that. I just cant help but think of all the other amazing cloth diapers out there that I dont have yet. What else can I try?








If you are interested in cloth diapers I highly recommend visiting Pinstripes and Polkadots their Diapering Basics section has a TON of great information. They were the site that inspired me to believe that cloth diapering was feasible and even desirable to our lifestyle. Another great forum to visit is the Eco-Friendly Family section of thebump.com. Those ladies are quick to answer any question, and there are a ton of ladies on there who have successfully cloth diapered multiple children.

And for those of you out there who may say "give it a week and you will be in disposables." I will say this, I cannot predict the future. But I cannot forsee any reason (other than a medical one) that would cause me to stop cloth diapering. I have invested my time, energy, and money into this already and I plan to see it through. For those of you who know me, you know that I dont give up easily. So I will make this work. Because I do believe its what is best for my child, our planet, and my wallet. But if Jake does end up in sposies down the road, feel free to say "I told you so." But you can be assured that they will be the most eco-friendly sposies available.




Peace out,

Saturday, February 20, 2010

33 weeks and a "BIG" boy!

33 weeks pregnant

A quick update from our doctors appointment this week. We met the final doctor in the practice at our appointment Thursday. She is very nice and DH liked her a lot. She took my measurements as usual and we found out that I am measuring at 37 weeks. At the time I was only 33 weeks and 3 days. So this is a significant difference. After palpating my uterus and locating his butt/head she estimated his weight at between 7-7 1/2 pounds. At this point I went into shock. I have 6 weeks left until my due date, and babies should gain about 1/2 a pound per week until birth. That would put Mr Jake at 10 or 10 1/2 pounds. Holy crap! I am aware that these measurements could be off, but even if she is off by a pound or a pound and a half he is still around 5 pounds now! So we may be getting a growth ultrasound done soon to make sure he is not actually ginormous like the doctor thinks. Her words were "you may just grow big babies." Um, you think?


How far along? 33 weeks and 5 days today.
Total weight gain/loss: Around 33. I had a huge weight gain at my last appointment, but I sincerely believe this is partially water retention. My feet, ankles, and calves are so swollen by the end of the day that they are tender. That has to be part of it, right? RIGHT?!
Maternity clothes? My shirts are becoming shorter and shorter. Might have to invest in a few more.
Sleep: Ugh, the beginning of the end I fear. I am not sleeping well at all. I toss and turn all night trying to get comfortable. Then I wake up when my shoulders/hands/hips get sore or fall asleep. I am pretty happy I made it this far without losing much sleep though. I suppose this will only prepare me for his arrival right?
Best moment this past week: We had a nice time at our Bradley class, and we got to go to dinner and spend some time together before it. That is always nice.
Movement: He is definitely not kicking as much. I think he is running out of room. As I type this I believe he has a foot jammed into my rib. His butt is literally underneath my sternum, and his head is as far down as his head can get (and still be inside). He kicks, and elbows, and punches but its usually all in the same place. He isnt rolling around too much. But he is definitely still head down, and I would say in the anterior position most of the time.
Food cravings: Eating more fruits and veggies this week, yay me!
Gender: Boy, John "Jake" Aaron.
Labor Signs: More Braxton hicks contractions, and strange sudden pains randomly. Almost like round ligament pains?
Belly Button in or out? Innie, maybe it will stay that way?
What I miss: Being able to read aloud a story and not feeling out of breath if its longer than 10 pages. Seriously I get out of breath if I have to read out loud for too long. Its sad.
What I am looking forward to: Next weekend is our shower!! Yay! So glad to see friends and family!
Weekly Wisdom: If you are going to have a baby, consider getting a king size bed first. Seriously you will be glad you did.
Milestones: 6 weeks left to go!!

Baby:

Week 33-36
Baby’s senses are continuing to improve -- when light peeks in through your (extremely) stretched belly, those tiny eyelids and irises blink and dilate. And, baby can now recognize and react to simple songs… time to start practicing your lullabies! Growth (at least inside your womb) is starting to slow, and you may notice baby descend into your pelvis at the end of this month.

**Stay tuned for an upcoming post about cloth diapering!**



 

Blog Template by YummyLolly.com - Sponsored by Free Web Space